I was tagged for ‘The Mum Tag’ by Me, Them and the Others so here goes…
1. FAVOURITE MUM HACK?
My favourite mum hack is to always have a nappy in your bag, even once they’re out of nappies. Trust me on this one. You’ll thank me when someone is about to get caught short on the train or the motorway and there’s no toilet nearby. Stick a nappy in their trousers and voile…. accident avoided. I’ve even heard of a mum using this trick when stuck in traffic once but I can’t vouch for that…!
2. MOST EMBARRASSING MUM MOMENT?
When Erin was teeny, and I was still very much in the deep end, not having a clue what I was doing (not to mention feeling super nervous about going to a baby group) there was a nappy incident beyond disaster. As part of the baby massage class, which I’d already made an entrance to by arriving late with a screaming baby into a room of calm serenity, babies were to be undressed for skin on skin. As I went to take Erin’s vest off, I realised just why she was wailing. This was a poonami of the first degree…. as I took off the poo-soaked vest, a nappy full of what can only be described as chicken korma fell to the floor. And unfortunately this was one of those groups where solidarity seemed to be lacking. People looked on, full of pity, while I frantically searched for clean clothes/wipes/nappy/giant hole to swallow me up. Obviously I didn’t have anything useful. I had a thermometer, two bottles of Calpol (just in case) and cute, little nail clippers but no clean vests, no wipes and certainly no pretty, new outfits. Thankfully, one person (who was clearly much less judgemental and snooty than the others) gave me some spares. So after the booming entrance, stinking the church hall out and definitely ruining our chances of making some cool, new mum friends, I avoided eye contact, massaged my grumpy, little baby and then made swift exit with my little girl dressed in a tractor onesie. Winning at mum life, I was not.
3. WHAT PART OF THE DAY DO YOU LOVE THE MOST?
A cliche perhaps, but I love those rare moments when everyone has chilled out and snuggled up on the sofa. For 30 seconds. Before someone wants feeding/changing/putting to bed again.
4. WHAT PART OF THE DAY DO YOU LIKE THE LEAST?
That hour or two between dinnertime and bedtime. Everyone (including me) goes a little bit crazy, a little bit whingy and a big bit ready for some rest.
5. THE WORST THING SOMEONE SAID TO YOU WHEN YOU WERE PREGNANT?
Ooo, to be honest, apart from horrendous morning sickness with Erin, the thing I hated the most about pregnancy was all the attention. I don’t really like being the focus of things so constant questions on pregnancy and comments on my size/diet/anything were pretty unwelcome BUT I know this is probably pretty rare and I’m a bit of a weirdo for being awkward about it all.
6. BABY NAME YOU DIDN’T AGREE ON?
With Erin Rosanna, we agreed on her name fairly early on but I did also love Grace. Rory Alexander was much harder. We knew the middle name was set as we both have a Grandad called Alexander but the first name stumped us. I did suggest Rory early on as I wanted both to have Irish names but Charlie dismissed it straight away. Luckily he finally came to his senses!!!
7. DO YOU CO SLEEP?
Nope. I know it works great for some families but I’m a huge believer in sleep routines for baby and them being in their own beds.
8. SOMETHING YOU BOUGHT BUT NEVER USED?
I’m a bit of a fan of buying prams! But, in fairness, they’re always second hand so it’s not like I spend hundreds and hundreds on them. It’s just that I get pram envy of other people, whose prams look so pretty and lovely so I buy them then realise that actually Baby Jogger prams are the dogwotsits so I’ll deal with it being a bit ugly.
9. 3 HOSPITAL BAG MUST HAVES?
Snacks – because hospital shops are expensive and let’s face it, no one ever has the right change for vending machines. I swear by Lucozade Sport during labour.
Enough stuff for a few days – I was hopeful in thinking that I’d have a baby and be home soon after. In reality, with both babies I was in for a fair few days which meant asking other people to go and buy me some more big granny pants, pyjamas and so on. Not ideal.
10. ARE YOU ROUTINE MUM OR A GO WITH THE FLOW MUM AND WHAT DOES BEDTIME LOOK LIKE?
A bit of both really – I am a huge stickler for bedtime routine but feel like I can be fairly flexible with everything else. Generally I try to plan the day around when Rory is able to have a sleep, so if we’re going on a long drive then I’ll keep him awake until we leave, for example. But I learned quite early on that children need to go to bed way before they seem tired. And also, no matter what time they go to bed, they wake up between 6 and 7am so there is zero benefit of letting them stay up later. So at home, massively a routine fun but if we’re out and about, then I’m cool just going with the flow!
11. WHAT TYPE OF LABOUR DID YOU HAVE? WHAT PAIN RELIEF DID YOU CHOOSE?
All of the pain relief over here, please. There are no medals for doing it without and I’ll happily receive any help I can get. Both labours were horrendous (emergency c-section first time, forceps second time) and had various complications so I’m just glad that me and my babies all came out of it alive. Don’t let people make you feel bad if you had a Caeserean or loads of pain relief…YOU GREW A HUMAN and that’s a bloody great achievement.
12. HAVE YOU EVER BEEN MUM SHAMED?
I don’t think so but probably because I’m quite confident in my motherly abilities. Just do what you have to do for an easy life and whatever is best for your family.
13. THE BIGGEST CHALLENGES YOU’VE FACED SINCE BECOMING A MUM?
Loneliness, without a doubt. Friendships change when you have a baby, don’t they? Suddenly drunken nights out are a whole lot less important as motherhood becomes all-consuming (in a good way) and, let’s face it, friends without kids just aren’t interested in hearing about your baby 24/7.
14. THE BEST BIT ADVICE YOU HAVE EVER BEEN GIVEN – BIGGEST PIECE OF ADVICE YOU’D GIVE TO A NEW MUM?
Lower your standards – of everything. I’m only half joking. Your house will never be as clean as it was pre-babies, days out will never be stress-free and things will rarely go as planned. But just go with and enjoy those baby cuddles because they’re the best!
15. WHO’S YOUR MUM CRUSH?
Oh so many – I think most mums are bloody amazing!
16. AND WHO DO YOU TAG?
I don’t even know any else who does this blogging thing really so if you want to give it a go then get involved and say I tagged you!! (Annie, I’m looking at you here!)